42613 – Overcoming Abuse (Sheila)

Robbins-Madanes Training

All of us can change, but we must truly want to, and be willing to do what’s necessary to break through our habitual patterns and find a new way of acting. We must discover our own emotional resources and those of our relationships. Then we need to commit to making the changes that will solve the problem.
Leverage means to get maximum access or use out of your resources. When we are ready to change, we will want to use all the tools we have to evaluate our own needs, our model of the world, the shape of our extended relationships, and our ways of communicating. We can also call on a powerful tool of self-analysis that can add another dimension in helping us to reframe a problem.


Archetypes are characters that appear universally in myths and are contained within each of us. There are four universal Jungian archetypes.


The Warrior is action and strength. This is the strongest, most intense part of us. The Warrior is powerful and focused on action. The Warrior attacks a problem. This archetype can engage your full emotional commitment to solving a problem so that you are fully vested before moving on. Alternative names for the Warrior are the Fighter, the Soldier, the Protector, the Amazon, and the Hero.


The Magician is humor and imagination. The Magician signifies imagination, intuition and humor. Once you have fully engaged as the Warrior, moving to the archetype of the Magician encourages you to break patterns, even the pattern of being a Warrior. The Magician is irreverent and uses humor as a shortcut. The Magician tells the untold truth about the situation and in that way finds options for the solution. The Magician can detach from anything and just observe it. He finds the magic in everything. The Magician can snap his fingers and change things. What other people get upset about, he sees as absurd because he has a totally different perspective. The Magician sees that it’s all magic, it’s all hocus pocus, it’s all spells. He has a bit of a whimsical view of things, and he is involved with the invisible and with intuition. He can solve things in an instant. Whereas the Warrior has to do things through strength, power, and action, the Magician might do it with the snap of a finger, by insight or by humor. Alternative names for the Magician are the Maverick, the Wise Guy, the Fairy Godmother, the Turnaround Expert.


The Lover is deep connection. The Lover signifies your deepest emotional connection with others and with the world. The love that sustained you in your childhood is the basis of your feeling of conscience and compassion for others. This is where you vibrate with life and connect to yourself and to other people. This is where your deepest love is — a love that has no conditions, a love that is pure, the purest part of who you are. Alternative names for the Lover are the Caretaker, the Protector, the Loving One.


The Sovereign is vision and purpose. The Sovereign integrates the other archetypes into a comprehensive vision about your life and purpose. He or she is the one who really knows your vision and objectives. The Sovereign is the one who governs and has the ability to rule your life. He knows why you are here, what you are here to do. The Sovereign is like a great king or queen with enormous wisdom and knowledge. He has been here before; he commands and never overreacts. Alternative names for the Sovereign are the King or Queen, the Visionary, the Founder, the Goddess, the President.

These archetypes are in each of us, but they are not always in balance. Sometimes the Warrior is running the show, and every action comes from that perspective. Sometimes it is the Lover, whose actions are quite different. But whenever only one is in charge, that perspective becomes exhausted.

Think of a challenge that you have. It may be an internal challenge or it may be a challenge with a family member, a client, a colleague, a friend. Play out the problem in the persona of each these archetypes. What does the Warrior want? What does the Lover want? And so on. This is a way of creating a network — a circle of support to help you get to the root of what is wrong. The process harnesses the force of emotion, turning it into a strength that will bring about harmony.

When Jungian archetypes don’t feel comfortable or appropriate, you can make up other labels. You can “name” your own archetypes by asking yourself: When I feel powerful and engaged and can take on a challenge with my full energy, how do I think of myself? Find your own name for the Warrior — it might be Superman, the Can-Do Kid, or the Ubermom. You can also use a meta-frame to take on specific people’s perspectives, such as “What would Dad say?” and “What would Grandmother say?” Then you can answer, “Dad says to me…, or “Grandmother says to me…”

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