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• Weight Loss & The Secret to Profound Change

  
  Today’s video may surprise you. It’s about a woman named Beverley, who was pushing 50 and had spent her entire life overweight. She was 5’6″ and 360 lbs (“bigger than a linebacker” in her words) when she stood up to work with Tony. One hour later, she sat back down and went home… not with a new diet, not with an exercise plan, in fact with no specific plan for losing weight whatsoever… but with a new understanding of herself. She went home and lost 236 pounds, naturally. No drugs, no surgery.
  In this video, you’ll see Beverley literally a transformed woman five years later. It’s like her self-esteem and appreciation for herself grew tenfold. The video is a 15 minute excerpt from an 80 minute film. You’ll see Beverley when she first met Tony, then you’ll see her in the midst of her transformation, and you’ll see her five years later and 230 pounds lighter.
  So the question is: what could empower a 350 pound “chronically obese” grandmother to shed 230 pounds -from a size 28 dress to a size 8- without any of the modern tricks (surgery and pills)? Well, it’s the same thing that empowered a timid, self-confessed “terrified” woman to become the wise, witty, crackerjack of a lady Beverley became (as you can see in the video.) In other words, Beverley’s weight loss was not so much about diet books and exercise tapes. The real source of Beverleys’ shift lay in:
  * Understanding her real beliefs and values, and how she creates meanings * Empowering herself to act on what she believes is right, to express herself, and appreciate herself * Resolving the pain of something that happened to her a long time ago * Making new choices about the way she relates to people NOW so that her relationships bring her joy
  Now, many of the changes listed above are “big ticket items” that we hope to resolve in a matter of years, right? What’s special about the video is that Beverley handled these items in a matter of an hour.
  

• Financial Emergency – Do THIS to win back your future

  
  Ever had a situation come crashing down around you while you’re wondering, “Now how am I going to fix this?”
  Of course you have. The question is: When something goes wrong – whether it’s a work situation, a relationship, or a financial matter, how do you get yourself 100% PRESENT to address it? Because when human beings get stressed, we tend to hide. Then we create a story in our minds about why this bad stuff is happening and why we can’t change it. You have to be SO careful – because this reactive mindset can creep up on you and prevent you from coming up with a great solution.
  Most people don’t realize that many or most problems can be solved through a) presence and b) strategy. Everyone experiences obstacles. People who can be present with the problem and present with their outcome – they make use of everything that comes in their way. They see strategies that can be put in play, and they take action.

 There’s an old saying: “In crisis lies opportunity.” Because crisis destabilizes everything, it enables you to see situations with a fresh set of eyes – and reassemble what’s there into 
something that is much more meaningful. And guess what? You pull out of the crisis, take advantage of your resources and later, you’ll find yourself grateful that the crisis happened.

 Why? Because it forced you to make things even better.
  In today’s film, we’re going to see how one man who thought he was wiped out by a crisis – then arose to turn it all around within one hour. With Tony’s help, he got present, got a strategy, and found an opportunity… that had actually been waiting for him. Within months, he was much happier than he had ever been before. You’ll see him several years later as he shares his results.

 This film is special to me because we have received over a dozen emails from people telling us this film literally saved their life. I hope you find it helpful and meaningful as well.
  P.S. One of our students writes:
  Words cannot begin to express what I’m going through in this training program. It is amazing! My mind is changing and I understand so many things I was blind about. I still have a lot of work, but I can already see and feel the results, and I’m enjoying the journey. I really appreciate your work and honor you. Thank you so much.
  -D, Israel
  

• Overcoming Barriers In The Family

  I have a riddle for you. In this wonderful intervention by Tony Robbins, an eighteen year old girl stands up complaining of suicidal thoughts and feelings. And maybe an hour later, Tony is working not only with her  but more directly with her mother, helping her to be more courageous in her life. When the mother became more courageous, the girl was no longer suicidal. So how does that work? How is it possible that a child’s life-or-death predicament, at age eighteen, when most young people are leaving the nest and all about pursuing their own lives, can be traced back to an emotion in the mother? Is it that the mother’s courage healed her daughter? How did Tony know to “go there?” It’s the same reason why, as Strategic Interventionists, someone may come to us with a money problem and a relationship problem – and we end up solving both problems with the same strategy. We might get someone complaining about their weight or health, and they’ll come out not only with a health breakthrough, but a transformation of their career. And why is that? Because all of these areas of your life are on the same network – and that network is you and your relationships – and for this reason you can also solve many problems at once. This is especially the case in your relationship with your teenagers or adult children. Why? Because they are figuring you out. They grew up following your example, and as teenagers they go through a phase called “differentiation” where they’re struggling to understand your choices so that they can learn to make their own choices as adults. This is a positive but often confusing process for your teen or young adult – so here are some steps for helping them with it. 1. Understand and appreciate your child’s strengths and personal style. Human beings process life in different ways. Some of us are primarily visual in the way we represent the world to ourselves. Visual people tend to communicate quickly and to the point. People who process in an auditory mode often frustrate visual people, because they listen, but don’t emphasize eye contact the way visual people need it. And people who process kinesthetically usually take longer to absorb information and communications, but once absorbed, they act from a deeper well of feeling. However your child processes, you need to appreciate this as a strength. Get curious about your differences! Sandra’s mother didn’t know what to make of Sandra’s long silences, and so they grew apart. Now she knows that Sandra operates from a great depth of kinesthetic feeling. Take a moment and think about how your family members process – are they more visual, auditory, or kinesthetic? What misunderstandings happen when people fail to understand each other’s modes – just as when Candy and her mother communicate quickly and visually, Sandra feels slower and left out. How could you value and appreciate that person’s differences from you – hey, that’s part of the richness of life! 2. Reconnect. If you want to influence a teen or young adult, the first step is universal: reconnect and build a base for your relationship. Tony reconnected Sandra and her mother by understanding their modalities – Sandra is kinesthetic and needs time to experience the depth of her feelings, while her mother is visual and craves visual stimulus. When Tony asked them to stand face to face, the mother had the visual experience of her daughter looking intently at her, eye to eye, while the daughter had the time to access her depths of feeling and communicate her emotion kinesthetically to her mom. This stimulated both the visual and the kinesthetic and built a “bridge” of feeling between the two. What could you invite your child to do with you that your child would enjoy? Enjoy a comfortable walk, a movie, or a meal together. Young people enjoy doing things, so if you can, plan something you can do together. And they often enjoy eating! Is there something your child would like to experience but doesn’t get the opportunity? Put in some hours with your child – on their terms – with no agenda or stressful topics of conversation. By simply enjoying something together, you are adding to the foundation of your relationship, which will increase your influence with them when you need it. 3. Be courageous. The most effective way to influence any human being – but most of all your child – is through your example. Children grow up in the shadow of their parents’ example, and you should assume that whatever you feel in your private life, they know, and they are responding to it in their way. Are you afraid of a relationship, or afraid of moving forward in your life? Do you beat yourself up with guilt, insecurity, feelings of inadequacy, or frustration? Your child knows and feels it, and their decisions are being affected by your internal patterns. Sandra didn’t know why she felt suicidal despair – but Tony discovered that her mother was afraid of her daughter’s emotional depth – because the mother feared deep relationships. When the mother had the courage to “go deep” with her daughter, she was able to understand Sandra and connect at a level that healed the sibling rivalries in the family. How could you demonstrate your courage to your child? Show them that you love them no matter what? Show them that you trust and believe in them? Show them you have the courage to accept and appreciate yourself? You don’t need to say anything about this – it actually works best if you don’t. Just let your child see that you know how to face your fears and grow. 4. Give your kid ways to help you. One part of being a teen or young adult is accepting that you are gaining in your ability to contribute in the world. Find something your kid can do to help you – preferably something your child feels is meaningful. Ask them for help with your computer or cell phone settings. Let them feel like the expert, and appreciate them for their abilities. Do this in small ways, and it will bring great balance to the relationship. One of the biggest mistakes we ever make is the underestimate the influence we have on others. We think we have to argue logically with people, instead of just showing them another way to be. We imagine that we can indulge in self-sabotage without negatively influencing our family. We fail to remember the healing power of simply listening to and appreciating the people in our life. Don’t make this mistake. One quality of a great leader is to help people understand your choices and your intentions. As a parent, when you spend time helping your children understand why you’re doing what you’re doing, or why you did what you did in the past, even if it’s a mistake, you’re showing leadership qualities. This will reassure them and enable them to ask the questions they need to ask. We hope this helps you, and please let us know your thoughts. Your comments are appreciated 🙂 Warmly, Mark Peysha CEO Robbins-Madanes Training
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• How To Find Your Greatest Resource

  
  Ever feel that the weight of the past is too heavy, you don’t know how to break through to a new future? This is a common problem, and often people waste months or years of their life suffering from guilt, shame, or feelings of inadequacy… then one day break through to the life of their dreams. How? Let’s talk about it.
  In today’s film, you’re going to meet Lyndsey, a woman who seemed to be facing such difficult odds. She stood up to speak with Tony because due to some poor financial decisions, she had put her family $250,000 in debt… and the guilt and shame of doing this was crushing her soul. Tony dug a little deeper and discovered the root source of Lyndsey’s pain – she had two daughters with severe health problems, and this is what had driven Lyndsey to gamble.
  So what did Lyndsey really need? She needed to be as strong as fulfilled in her life as possible, so that she could enjoy every day even while fighting for her daughters and rebuilding her finances. She spoke with Tony for a little over than an hour, found a solution, and sat down. Then she want home and got to work. As you’ll see, one year later, Lyndsey is a transformed woman – not only handling the demands of her home and family, but she also became a major contributor in her community. If you have ever felt that your decisions from the past are weighing you down, you MUST witness this method for turning yourself around and finally living the life you really want. Enjoy!